Sat down to blog after long long time.Actually I was pondering over a question from many days.We speak about love and crush.What is the difference between the two???How do You know when it is a crush and when You are in love.
My idea was that for love You really need to know a person and like him/her.Crush is when you dont know the other person completely but still like him/her.That is You can only love a person whom you Know completely.But somehow this definition looked incomplete.After all how do you explain love at first sight???Does it always mean that love at first sight is a crush??
But Manasa gave a different definition once.She said Love is when You like a person but you dont know why....Crush is when you like a person and You know why...(She is beautiful,very friendly etc.ie one or more characterstics of the other person impresses You).
I partly agree with this definition.What do you guys have to say??????
My idea was that for love You really need to know a person and like him/her.Crush is when you dont know the other person completely but still like him/her.That is You can only love a person whom you Know completely.But somehow this definition looked incomplete.After all how do you explain love at first sight???Does it always mean that love at first sight is a crush??
But Manasa gave a different definition once.She said Love is when You like a person but you dont know why....Crush is when you like a person and You know why...(She is beautiful,very friendly etc.ie one or more characterstics of the other person impresses You).
I partly agree with this definition.What do you guys have to say??????
posted by Dheeraj Bhat | 10:28 PM
2 Comments:
Dhee,
I am no expert in this nor I have been good at this but here are some things I have learnt. Hope this helps you in some way… but note that it is only my perspective.
Love is an effervescent feeling that seems to escape definition. You'll never be able to define love by looking it up in a dictionary or confine it with some words.If you feel the flutter of butterflies in your stomach, Cupid has probably shot you with his arrow. Someone has written “Never try to define love. Once defined love is confined. Once confined -- It dies”.
While there's no clear, fool-proof way to decipher your feelings for someone, there are certain ways to make this distinction clearer for yourself.
· Keep in mind that in most relationships, you're feeling all three (love, infatuation, and lust) all at once, to some degree.
· Sometimes the person that you love isn't always the person that you want.
· Don't give up. Whatever you start or are involved in, don't quit it just because it seems too hard.
· Ask someone that you trust who is older than you (preferably your mother).
· Lasting relationships are the those that are built on love - not infatuation or lust. Imagine the person you love in 50 years when they are old and fat. Would that change how you feel about them? If yes, then what you feel now is most likely lust/infatuation - not love.
Finally a poem from Barrett, though it may not be completely relevant to the subject, it is beautiful.
How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.
I love thee to the level of everyday's
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for Right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.
I love thee with a passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood's faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints, --- I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life! --- and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.
So I think only our heart can really explain what actually love is…beyond logic J. Congratulations on your engagement. I know I will not be there that but my wishes are always with you.
Cheers,
Nitin
Crush, according to me, happens when we mistake loneliness for love. Its like this - during our teenage years we start developing a fascination about love. We see in movies and songs how a guy and gal hold hands and dance , say the most romantic lines to each other. That touches us in some way and we want that to happen to us too. Then , we see somebody and we find that person interesting enough to start building thoughts about a romantic relationship. All this happens because we are lonely and we feel the need to have somebody in our life. The person whom we think we are in love with is not really that important....its what we feel inside that matters most.
In love, the person whom we love is most important. We respect that persons thoughts and the way he/she is, though there might be somethings which we don't like and agree with. When you are really in love, you learn to be selfless and at the same time have your self-respect intact. You start understanding yourself better than earlier.
In love you are not really concerned whether the other person reciprocates your feelings or not. But in infatuation most of your energy goes in trying to impress and pataofy the girl. In love you never shy away from your responsibilities b'cos you don't have anything to prove to anybody. Its like being in bliss. Just content with the feeling of being in love. Nothing to loose or win.
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